He said my writing does not show him Africa. Keep in mind this American man has never visited any country in Africa. He said i was writing about Africans driving and listening to Sade in air-conditioned cars. He just couldn’t identify with such. He said it like i should apologize for ever portraying my people as some modern day normal Africans. It is as though if Africans are not killing each other or dying of a disease; then our stories are not valid. As a Nigerian, i have never witnessed war and i know what listening to Sade in an air-conditioned car while in crazy Lagos traffic feels like, yet an American who has never stepped foot in my continent tried explaining my country to me. He said, “i am sorry, this is just not believable….” and then as i tried to hold my anger, i understood the ‘burden’ of writing an African story.

The anger most African writers feel when others seem to know so damn much about our own motherland. The terrible idea that Africans are a certain way is disheartening. I remember how my friend in Lagos laughed as i told her about the American. She laughed loud at his foolishness and cursed him in Yoruba. You cannot tell me what an African city looks like, you cannot tell me what a Nigerian city looks like. You cannot tell me how to write about Africa only if it shows her people as helpless, only if it feeds into your stereotype. How can a foreigner tell us about our own land? They want to shake their head, read only about struggles and discuss it in their book clubs. The audacity of a foreigner to tell me how to write about my people.

Earth is cool and all but I want to go back to my home planet now.

(Source: filthy-hippie-vibes)

  • Me: "Dis hocus pocus pussy will make ya man socially conscious and have him thinking about the world"
  • Me: "U know thats a theory and all but im pretty sure its valid"

I don’t know what perfect is but I would just want to experience the first time with someone I can comfortably share bodies with and trust.
Can’t have him sharing the taste of my goodies wit da world fam; it’s confidential information top secret shit like no one knows how erykah badu pussy taste like and she done had 3 kids!!